This research studied adolescence dilemma of best friends by focusing on the internal working model through questionnaires and interviews. Following are the results: (1) Secure group is aware of their dilemma and can express it. The friends in this group are close; however, they also have a strong desire to be themselves. (2) In Dismissing group, the importance of best friends is low and they choose family as the most important people. Although their desire to be distant from friends and the tendency to think about themselves are strong, they also desire to be close with their friends because of the distance. (3) Preoccupied group’s characteristic is the strong desire to be close to their friends while still having the desire to be themselves. (4) Fearful group face dilemma, but they tend to not express it by stating that they are satisfied with their current situations. In conclusion, this research suggests that the dilemma of best friends as expected by the self-others view, and the one which people are actually aware of and express, are not necessarily the same.
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