This study elucidates the feelings of mothers raising daughters while sensing their developmental traits, without clear diagnosis, by focusing on their relationship. We conducted semi-structured interviews with mothers who perceived that their first-grade daughters exhibited developmental traits. Based on their narratives, we found that the mothers find that raising daughters with these traits is easy; however, adapting to the behaviors of their daughters is “a hassle.” As their understanding of these developmental traits progressed, mothers viewed their daughters from a different perspective. When viewed from the same-gender perspective, the difficulties and troublesome relationships they experienced became a filter, such that the mothers treated their daughters as “girls with traits” and “traits plus girls” and provided preemptive support to enable their daughters to learn social skills for complex friendships in the future. Mothers who objectively considered their daughters to be the same as themselves could detect changes in their relationships, whereby the daughters emerged as full individuals in three dimensions. In this manner, the mothers and daughters became mutually supportive.
【Research Impact】
So far, mothers' feelings toward their daughters with developmental traits and the changes in mothers' self-understanding have not been adequately examined. Mothers' perceptions of their daughters' difficulties, which change from discouragement to providing security along with social support, and the transformation of their relationship with their daughters–resulting from understanding their daughters' traits–need clarification. This study recommends social support for mothers raising daughters with developmental traits.
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